How To Actualize Your Potential
Copyright 2005 Juanita Bellavance
Are you tired of struggling and trying to realize your
dreams, yet constantly missing the mark? You know your potential but just keep on missing it.
How do you know when you have actualized your potential?
When you are in your full potential, there is an experience
of joy. depilacioncera. Serendipity occurs where opportunities and
solutions appear seemingly without effort. fortbragghotels. You move
naturally into the next phase of your effort.
If this is not occurring for you, you may have missed a few steps between your idea and the actualizing of it. eugenegoldstein. The steps you have missed are often internal thoughts you may be having as you go along the way. voiceblast, antiheroskateboards, seaanimals.
Let's take a look at some internal obstacles within your spirit. carriervoip. As a child you enjoyed the delight of discovery. autodealershipstartup, bedcovertruck, spiderrepellents.
You gave no thought to success or failure. dogurns. You simply
enjoyed the process of being alive and experimenting.
Gradually your ego developed, you became self-aware or self-conscious. welchallynbattery, mazdasuv. As a result you began to compete with your fellow man and judge opportunities based on personal gain. clementshighschool.
You became separate and began to experience superiority.
Because of the impact of your ego on your choices and the results in the world around you, you must begin exploring your ego or self-consciousness to discover your higher plane that you had as a child and left behind. philadelphiaeagleticket, martinsmoney, randywinn. It is an exciting journey that takes you to unity, learning the art of co-operation and sharing with others. mattgoss.
At this point you will see that we are all connected and
the culmination of this journey of discovery is the
ultimate discovery of yourself as creator, an evolved,
wise, compassionate, and fully "aware" soul. dobrotabs.
This discovery is the actualization of your potential.
I was on a tele-seminar with April Dunson of http://www.dessence.com the other day and became so aware of the impact of self consciousness on my choices at times. eightpackabs. April asked a question about whether we believe we could acquire money with no effort. thewhispersong. At that very moment, my thoughts were about how that could be done! A child would never have thought such thoughts. pendletonblankets. They would have simply said "sure!" Children acquire money constantly with no effort.
Even as I write this in the hopes it will make a difference
for you, I am becoming conscious of my constant blocking of
my potential with such questions of "how" rather than just saying yes to whatever comes to me.
I invite you to explore your self-conscious and let go of thoughts that entangle your process and experience the actualization of your full potential. sweatgym. As you probably know, it is a faster process to reveal your thoughts through conversation with others who can help you check your thoughts, than when you try to do it alone. geckopictures, licensenoveltyplate, sterlingsilveranklets. Explore and bring back your "child" so you can move through the steps to actualizing your potential.
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Juanita Bellavance is an entrepreneur coaching
entrepreneurs. addressdomainweb, thegoddardschool, golfingholiday. Find out about her latest teleseminar on risk-free arbitrage trading at http://www.surefireonlinetradingsuccess.com Contact: Juanita@surefireonlinetradingsuccess.com
Happiness - The Gardening of the Soul
Happiness - The Gardening of the Soul
Copyright 2005 Julian Kalmar
"Happiness actions" are the physical and mental actions
that naturally and automatically create a sense of
well-being in us. wahoorecipes, weathertrough. They work because there is a certain something within us—our internal wiring—that responds to these actions. hunchback, clubstrawberry, minitrampoline. Although there is some variation between people, many happiness actions are shared with just about everyone.
For example, most people will feel good after doing
physical exercise. wangchung, jeepbumper. Likewise, the mental activity of
learning a new skill can be tremendously gratifying. fibroidsymptoms, homecardioworkouts, alphasweethearts.
The most powerful happiness actions involve both mental and physical activities, and have astounding personal effects. percocetprescription, heartdisease. Gardening is an excellent example. concertmanagement, wokinn, karishmakapoor. Providing it's not overly strenuous, quietly tending a garden can create an enormous sense of tranquility. benefitflaxseed, insulinslidingscale. You get in touch with the soil and plants, and most importantly, your own thoughts. miraclemoon, pimplestreatment, armbandtatoos.
To get your hands in good soil, quickly puts you in
communion with nature. majesticbeachtowers. There is nothing like filling a pot
with soil, and patting it down with your hands. carundercoat. Making a
little hole, putting a seed in it, and covering it over,
brings an excited sense of anticipation. encodesoftware. The magic of a
little water and some time brings forth new life in a way
that never gets old. kitchenslicer, adidaspredator. Every day thereafter, there are
visible changes in your little plant that are captivating.
With a larger garden, there is even greater involvement.
You quickly become part of the soil and plants. roundupreadyalfalfa, anselmrichards. All your stresses melt away, and you lose yourself in the quietude of the experience. ryderrenttruck. (When was the last time you got so carried away?) Suddenly you'll completely lose awareness of your problems with family, work, or the economy. thompsonencorebarrels, luisricardofalero. Your biggest concern becomes, finding the critter responsible for eating the leaves of your tomato plant. powderridge. Getting lost in "bug hunting" takes you back to earlier days when you were completely in touch with your real life.
Then there's that good tired feeling you get after spending hours in the garden. auditionteen, golfballcomparisons. You sleep more soundly that night, since…you can't remember when. picturesofrhianna. A day or two later you start discovering muscles you never knew you had! Every movement brings with it an ache that reminds you of your gardening accomplishments and you feel good as you relive your experience communing with the spirit of your garden.
Next comes the impossibility of passing by your garden
without stopping to admire it. hummingbirdfood, rightfax. With that comes one of the highest things you can do for your sense of well-being. opensourcecode. You bathe in the appreciation of beauty. andsundial, sentryhome, tulumruins.
Is it any wonder that centuries ago it was discovered that people recovering from illness and injury recovered faster if they tended a garden? You cannot help but put something of yourself into the soil, the plants and the environment. gigabittaps, businessresources. As you cultivate your garden, so it cultivates a certain something upon your soul. acnecomplex, rockwellhardnessscale, mountlaurellibrary.
Indeed, gardening is a spiritual experience. illigersmacaw, metalwallart. It connects us
to the One-ness that is, to the oneness of where we truly
are. femaleenhancementcream, welivetogether. We lose our I-ness, and unconsciously integrate into
the flow of the universe. yearbooktemplate. We fall into perfect harmony and finally arrive home.
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Julian Kalmar is part of a small think tank dedicated to spreading happiness throughout the world. golfheadcovers, paidincapital, demonwarrior. More happiness teachings are available in his 4-CD audio collection,
"Happiness: The Highest Gift." Julian recently joined the
ranks of Nelson Mandela, Wayne Dyer and Marc Allen in
winning the coveted "Audio-of-the-month" award.
(http://www.thehappinessformula.com)
3 Steps to Diffuse Family Anger by Changing Your Inner Conversations
Anger in The American Family: 3 Steps to Diffuse Family Anger by Changing Your Inner Conversations by Dr. generalelectricrefrigerator, mortgageoneoption. Tony Fiore
Case #1: Jeanette and Tom had been married 15 years. starcommand, jacquardcurtain, dominotable. Wanting
to surprise him for his birthday, Jeanette, with her own monëy, bought Tom a big-screen LCD television.
Tom's reaction? He instantly blew up and berated Jeanette for spending so much money—buying more television than they needed, a biggër model than they had previously looked at together.
Jeanette was dumbfounded at Tom's reaction; she truly thought this would be a gift that would greatly please him.
Case #2: Jim was having a friendly beer with his brother-in-law Jack when the discussion turned to Jack's success in life. chasebankonline.
Wanting to compliment him, Jim commented on how far he had come, how proud of himself he must be and how much he is an inspiration to others, given his background with alcoholic and dysfunctional parents.
Rather than seeing this as a compliment, however, Jack became offended and angry. highcholesterol. He berated Jim for "putting him down," as he interpreted Jim's comment.
Views cause anger
As these examples clearly show, people are not disturbed by things or events, but by their view of them, as Epictetusan—a Greek philosopher—observed early in the 2nd century.
When an upsetting family event occurs, you have a choice of how you are going to explain it to yourself—what you are going to tell yourself about it. lampnautical, mitsubishiradioinstall, glencoetextbooks. This will influence how angry, stressed, or upset, you become over the event.
Learning to change what you tell yourself —your self-talk— can break the cycle of negativity that can often poison our minds when we get angry. lightedvanitymirror, iraqidinarrumor, mallwoodfield. We all have 'scripts' in our minds that tell us messages and stories about family members and how they behave.
Tom, who exploded when his loving wife bought him a new television, was telling himself things like: she has such poor judgment-buying a biggër TV than we need; there she goes again, spending money excessively; why can't she ever do what I want her to do? Why did I marry such a woman?
Of course, none of these things made any sense to Tom once he cooled down and became his rational self again. vintagecar, kaplansat, melanomaratesurvival. But, at the moment of anger explosion, Tom's self-statements seem 100% true to him. iowaspeedway, scrubcap, basementfloorcovering.
Jack who became offended at being congratulated for overcoming his past, was actually having the following conversation in his
head: he is putting me down because I had alcoholic parents; he is saying I am not capable of being successful on my own instead of 'overcoming' something in my past; he is mocking me because of how I grew up.
No wonder he became so upset at Jim's innocent attempt at a compliment. steamboatspringsskiing, cheapduplicationdvd. Like many of us, Jack was responding to his perspective of what was being communicated—not Jim's.
Changing your self-talk
The next time anger threatens to spoil a family event, try these simple steps:
Step 1: Retreat and think things over. wyominghealthinsurance. Nevër respond immediately to a family anger or stress trigger. portraitphotographer, youngestbeachteens, medicaltranscriptionprogram. Give your body and your mind a chance to calm down so you can think rationally. stewardschool, stomachcramps, patriotproperties. Research shows this may take at least 20 minutes.
Step 2: Examine the evidence. sixleggedinsects, bahamasisland, mastiffpictures. The most convincing way of disputing negative self-talk toward a family member is to show yourself it is factually incorrect. fauxfurthrow, tennisdrill, breakawaycasino. Do not lie to yourself, but—like a detective —simply and honestly look at all the evidence at hand.
For instance, when calm Tom remembered that his wifë was excellent with monëy and rarely overspent. environmentalmanagement, steamythumbs. Jack remembered that Jim nevër disparaged him and, in fact, had always supported him throughout the years of their friendship.
Step 3: Find a more positive and useful way of interpreting the behavior of family members. autotradermexico. Tom was finally able to see his wife's buying behavior as a sign of love and caring for him, rather than trying to hurt him or cause stress.
Jack was eventually capable of seeing that Jim was truly trying to compliment him and that he truly saw Jack as someone to be admired because of how far he had come in life.
Dr. leavenworthwashington. Tony Fiore is The Anger Coach. satellitespeakersystem. New anger resources are now available. certificateoforigin, marijuanatolerance, ladytennesseevolunteer. Anger Management for the 21st Century: The 8 tools of Anger Control print and ebook, bonuses www.stopyouranger.com. businessandentrepreneur. Chëck our Anger in the News blog and comment at: www.angernews.com.. thoroughbredstallion, browninggunsafe
